Holding the Man-2015

Director Neil Armfield

Starring Ryan Corr, Craig Stott

Scott’s Review #612

Reviewed January 24, 2016

Grade: B+

Holding the Man (2015) is a brave love story centering on two young men and spanning fifteen years as the men begin as high school sweethearts and progress into adulthood, and sadly both contract AIDS.

This is a pivotal aspect of the film as it is set during the 1970s and 1980s- a time when this disease was dreadful and more or less a death sentence.

The film is tender and poignant, but despite these qualities, I felt it lacked something more vigorous. I didn’t have the exact emotional reaction I thought I might.

Set in Australia, the film is adapted from a 1995 memoir of the same name.

The action begins in 1976 as we meet Tim and John, both high school students. They come from different social groups: Tim is a theater student, and John captains his soccer team.

Surprisingly, they connect romantically as Tim asks John out on a date.

The pair receive little hassle and are quite open with their relationship. Certainly, they face a bit of opposition from officials at the school, but this is not the main aspect that the film goes for.

Instead, the main problems come from John’s family, specifically his father, but the film handles this safely. Tim’s family is much more accepting.

Over the next fifteen years, the couple encounters death directly when they are simultaneously told they have acquired HIV.

The film is mostly told chronologically but occasionally flashes back and forth.

Specifically, flashbacks remind us of John’s youthful good looks when he is close to death, bald and sickly-looking.

The main point is the men’s enduring love for each other, which is a nice message.

Otherwise, the film (2015 and long since the AIDS plague) goes for a reminder of how harsh those times were for gay men, though there is a softness to the film that I felt instead of the brutal reality.

The actors playing John and Tim (Craig Stott and Ryan Corr, respectively) have decent chemistry, but that may have been stronger than I perceived, and it’s why I didn’t feel emotionally invested in the film.

The film was nice and sweet-the romance part- but when one of the men succumbs to AIDS, I should have been a puddle of tears, and I just wasn’t.

I did enjoy how the film doesn’t focus too much on the opposition from John’s father (Anthony LaPaglia). He would wish his son’s sexuality differently but is more concerned with how his son’s relationship with a male looks to Dad’s friends and neighbors.

The deeper story was the love between the men who knew no barriers.

It was nice to see Geoffrey Rush and Guy Pearce in supporting turns as a drama teacher (Rush) and as Tim’s father, Dick (Pearce).

Both do well in limited roles, and I adore how the film portrays Dick as a supportive father, even dancing a slow dance with his son at a wedding, without embarrassment.

Also notable is the sweet ending, where a photo of the real Tim and John appears during a narrative from an interview with the real Tim before his death.

Holding the Man (2015) is a nice film, but it doesn’t have the power other LGBT films in recent decades did.

Brokeback Mountain (2006) immediately comes to mind as a similar film, but one that was more emotional and engaged me much more.

An honest effort, though.